About
By 26 I realised there had to be more to life than the path I was on. I'm still asking that question. I just help other men ask it now too.
That question started a much bigger process — questioning who I was, what I stood for and what kind of man I wanted to become. I began yoga, meditation, actually looking at how I was living across every area of my life.
At 31 I made one of the biggest decisions of my life and left my marriage, because staying would have meant not being aligned with myself. Living truthfully has consequences. I found that out directly.
I later fell in love with Bex. We now have two boys together. Becoming a partner and father changed the work again — the questions stopped being purely about my own development.
What kind of man am I when people depend on me? What do my boys actually experience from me? Am I living what I say I believe?
I don't see myself as someone who's completed the journey and now teaches everyone else how to do it. I'm in it too. I'm trying to become the man I respect while I help other men do the same.
Why psychology
I study psychology because behaviour rarely starts where we think it does. The argument, shutdown, overworking or resentment on the surface often has something older underneath it. Jungian and Adlerian ideas help me think about patterns, belonging, responsibility, meaning and the parts of ourselves we'd rather not see. I use those ideas as lenses — not labels — to help you understand what's happening and decide what to do with it.
But I don't want to become someone who knows a lot of psychological theory and can't sit with another human being. Understanding a pattern isn't the same as changing it. Eventually the question is always the same one: what does life require from you now?
My work is informed by ongoing training in men's work, nervous-system regulation, Adlerian psychology and Jungian depth psychology, alongside years of working directly with people one-to-one and in groups.
Why I'm building this
Men who can provide but can't connect. Men who understand everything intellectually but keep repeating the same patterns. Men carrying shame they don't talk about. Men who think asking for help means they're weak.
I'm sick of masculinity being reduced to either domination or apology. I'm sick of shallow self-development pretending complex human beings can be fixed with another morning routine. I'm not interested in replacing that with endless introspection either.
I want men to understand themselves deeply enough that they have more choice about how they live. Then I want them to actually live.
What men say
From the men's circle
My desire for personal growth and connection with other like-minded men has kept me showing up to this group.
Doing the work with other men has shown me that although we're not all the same, we have many things in common. With the support of the other men in the group, I know I don't have to face my issues alone — and that's helped enormously through a period of grieving after my wife passed away. I'm now in a much better place and starting to enjoy life again.
The group has given me the opportunity to get things off my chest, to talk, to express myself without judgment or criticism. The stand-out moment for me so far was the weekend retreat with the group, which re-wired my brain.
What's made me keep showing up week to week? The growth I've achieved since starting — each session helps me address something that's been holding me back or limiting my self-belief. Hudson provides the safe and grounded guidance to help me grow.
What's different about doing this with other men? It's hugely reassuring to hear other men having similar problems and challenges — to know these thoughts and actions are normal, and common. There's a camaraderie in taking the journey together, in hearing other men be vulnerable or uncertain in a safe space, and in feeling truly heard, with the warmth and support they give me to grow.
What's changed for me since I started? I have a much greater awareness of my behaviour, the reasons for it, and my sense of self. I've grown in confidence sharing personal experiences, and I've learned that sharing challenges together helps me become the man I want to be.
Is there a specific moment that stood out? A session where I completed some energising breathwork and was able to lose myself in the exercise led to a total feeling of clarity and insight I hadn't felt before.